{"id":462,"date":"2025-07-22T11:38:15","date_gmt":"2025-07-22T18:38:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/22\/%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9\/"},"modified":"2025-07-22T11:38:15","modified_gmt":"2025-07-22T18:38:15","slug":"%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/22\/%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2764\ufe0f\u200d\ud83e\ude79"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>We could simply care for one another, but capitalism demands that its needs are met first, and its cut exhausts our resources, completely. We must then engage with capitalism to simply receive care, and we cannot care except through transaction. To care becomes a term for believing in something strongly, while being reminded, moment by moment, of our being too busy to engage our natural response to offer care. We need to care for one another. Capitalism doesn&#8217;t care.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We could simply care for one another, but capitalism demands that its needs are met first, and its cut exhausts our resources, completely. We must then engage with capitalism to simply receive care, and we cannot care except through transaction. To care becomes a term for believing in something strongly, while being reminded, moment by &#8230; <a title=\"\u2764\ufe0f\u200d\ud83e\ude79\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/22\/%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9\/\" aria-label=\"Read more about \u2764\ufe0f\u200d\ud83e\ude79\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"aside","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[26,16,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-462","post","type-post","status-publish","format-aside","hentry","category-personal-narrative","category-poem","category-reflection","post_format-post-format-aside"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paor1p-7s","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":466,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/23\/%f0%9f%92%97\/","url_meta":{"origin":462,"position":0},"title":"\ud83d\udc97","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"July 23, 2025","format":"aside","excerpt":"We're at a turning point: we are abandoning the need to evaluate the worth of a person by their ability to engage with capitalism, and adopting the wisdom to be inspired by those who, by their mere presence among us, increase our capacity to care.","rel":"","context":"In &quot;chronicle&quot;","block_context":{"text":"chronicle","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/category\/chronicle\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":510,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/29\/i-advocate\/","url_meta":{"origin":462,"position":1},"title":"i, advocate","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"July 29, 2025","format":false,"excerpt":"If you\u2019ve been following my neurodiversity journey\u2013as I articulate the experience of a person with autism, ADHD, aphantasia, and proprioception hyposensitivity from the inside, along with the other ways i share myself\u2013and you\u2019ve found that the insights I\u2019ve shared connect with your experience, or contextualize something you suspected, realize that\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;chronicle&quot;","block_context":{"text":"chronicle","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/category\/chronicle\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/img_0367.jpg?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/img_0367.jpg?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/img_0367.jpg?resize=525%2C300&ssl=1 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/img_0367.jpg?resize=700%2C400&ssl=1 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/img_0367.jpg?resize=1050%2C600&ssl=1 3x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/img_0367.jpg?resize=1400%2C800&ssl=1 4x"},"classes":[]},{"id":858,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2026\/08\/17\/normalize-casual-intimacy\/","url_meta":{"origin":462,"position":2},"title":"Normalize casual intimacy.","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"August 17, 2026","format":false,"excerpt":"I\u2019m a bi-gender person\u2014masc and femme together in parallel unison. 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