{"id":462,"date":"2025-07-22T11:38:15","date_gmt":"2025-07-22T18:38:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/22\/%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9\/"},"modified":"2025-07-22T11:38:15","modified_gmt":"2025-07-22T18:38:15","slug":"%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/07\/22\/%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b9\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2764\ufe0f\u200d\ud83e\ude79"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>We could simply care for one another, but capitalism demands that its needs are met first, and its cut exhausts our resources, completely. We must then engage with capitalism to simply receive care, and we cannot care except through transaction. To care becomes a term for believing in something strongly, while being reminded, moment by moment, of our being too busy to engage our natural response to offer care. We need to care for one another. Capitalism doesn&#8217;t care.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We could simply care for one another, but capitalism demands that its needs are met first, and its cut exhausts our resources, completely. We must then engage with capitalism to simply receive care, and we cannot care except through transaction. 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