i’ve always wanted a friend
who would send
poems to my inbox<\/p>\n\n\n\n
and lately i’ve been
sending poems
to my inbox<\/p>\n\n\n\n
and opening them
and reading them
aloud, in my mind<\/p>\n\n\n\n
and wow
they’re really good
i’ve got this friend<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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