{"id":636,"date":"2025-09-11T19:33:58","date_gmt":"2025-09-12T02:33:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/09\/11\/%e2%9e%a1%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b7%e2%ac%85%ef%b8%8f\/"},"modified":"2025-09-11T19:33:58","modified_gmt":"2025-09-12T02:33:58","slug":"%e2%9e%a1%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b7%e2%ac%85%ef%b8%8f","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/09\/11\/%e2%9e%a1%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b7%e2%ac%85%ef%b8%8f\/","title":{"rendered":"[\u27a1\ufe0f\ud83e\ude77\u2b05\ufe0f]"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>here&#8217;s what i&#8217;m trying to reconcile, sweetie,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>some of us recognize that we maybe only have five days left to connect with our loved ones,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>while others feel that time is endless, and we&#8217;ll always have another chance, in the future, to eventually connect with our loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>and those of us who recognize that we maybe only have five days left are recognizing that we&#8217;re not hearing from the loved ones who we want to be connected with, in our last five days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>we&#8217;re recognizing that we might not be the ones that our loved ones want to be connected with in their last five days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>how do we reconcile this, with our loved ones?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>how do we stay connected, even in tiny ways, that don&#8217;t evoke a sense of obligation to make some kind of ultimate connection?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>i miss you, sweetie. our connection means the world to me, even in the tiniest of ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>time is silently ticking by, behind all of our big feelings about how we&#8217;re supposed to connect, and how we&#8217;re feeling disconnected from our world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>within all of these big feelings, just know that a &#8216;hi&#8217; or an emoji is enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>you are exactly enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>i love you, sweetie. i want to be connected to you in the ways that you want to be connected to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>mostly, i just love you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>much.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>here&#8217;s what i&#8217;m trying to reconcile, sweetie, some of us recognize that we maybe only have five days left to connect with our loved ones, while others feel that time is endless, and we&#8217;ll always have another chance, in the future, to eventually connect with our loved ones. and those of us who recognize that &#8230; <a title=\"[\u27a1\ufe0f\ud83e\ude77\u2b05\ufe0f]\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/09\/11\/%e2%9e%a1%ef%b8%8f%f0%9f%a9%b7%e2%ac%85%ef%b8%8f\/\" aria-label=\"Read more about [\u27a1\ufe0f\ud83e\ude77\u2b05\ufe0f]\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[29,27,28,6,26,16,15,9,30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-636","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chronicle","category-didactics","category-ethos","category-neighborhood","category-personal-narrative","category-poem","category-politics","category-reflection","category-zen"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paor1p-ag","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":438,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/06\/29\/waiting-for-yes\/","url_meta":{"origin":636,"position":0},"title":"Waiting for yes","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"June 29, 2025","format":false,"excerpt":"\"Oh, come on Ryk, you're being so persnickety with language again. 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