{"id":641,"date":"2025-09-21T02:19:32","date_gmt":"2025-09-21T09:19:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/?p=641"},"modified":"2025-09-21T02:19:34","modified_gmt":"2025-09-21T09:19:34","slug":"a-word-to-the-wise","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/09\/21\/a-word-to-the-wise\/","title":{"rendered":"a word to the wise:"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>if one aspires to advocate, one is wise to watch the baby.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>the baby is the perfect advocate,<br>advocating directly for their own needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(may all our babies&#8217; needs be met,<br>directly)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>one is wise to meet the baby&#8217;s needs, directly,<br>knowing where a baby with unmet needs is liable to be led.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>only the wise know this.<br>(who is listening?)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>who hears the baby&#8217;s advocacy and jumps to meet the baby&#8217;s needs?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>only the wise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(and the wise are very few)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(maybe only you are listening,<br>wise one)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>if one aspires to advocate, one is wise to watch the baby. the baby is the perfect advocate,advocating directly for their own needs. (may all our babies&#8217; needs be met,directly) one is wise to meet the baby&#8217;s needs, directly,knowing where a baby with unmet needs is liable to be led. only the wise know this.(who &#8230; <a title=\"a word to the wise:\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/09\/21\/a-word-to-the-wise\/\" aria-label=\"Read more about a word to the wise:\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[29,27,28,2,14,26,16,15,9,30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-641","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chronicle","category-didactics","category-ethos","category-family-music","category-neurodiversity","category-personal-narrative","category-poem","category-politics","category-reflection","category-zen"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paor1p-al","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":623,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/08\/29\/portrait-of-a-scientist-early-20th-century\/","url_meta":{"origin":641,"position":0},"title":"Portrait of a Scientist (early 20th century)","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"August 29, 2025","format":false,"excerpt":"He was probably a university student, or a post-doc, or maybe already a professor. 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