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my tendency is to laugh at my first impressions.
something in my history casts a sinister spell
that even the simplest question disperses.
delightful surprises arise when i go
beyond the first brush of my eyes.
followup questions are the love language
in my dialogue with life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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my tendency is to laugh at my first impressions.something in my history casts a sinister spellthat even the simplest question disperses.delightful surprises arise when i gobeyond the first brush of my eyes.followup questions are the love languagein my dialogue with life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[29,14,26,16,9,30],"tags":[87,172,188,11,13,115,102,61,21,12,167],"class_list":["post-822","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chronicle","category-neurodiversity","category-personal-narrative","category-poem","category-reflection","category-zen","tag-autism","tag-belonging","tag-community","tag-current-events","tag-education","tag-intercognitive","tag-neurodivergent","tag-neurodiversity","tag-peace","tag-politics","tag-pride"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/saor1p-822","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":308,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2025\/06\/03\/neurodiverse-teams\/","url_meta":{"origin":822,"position":0},"title":"Neurodiverse Teams","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"June 3, 2025","format":"aside","excerpt":"See folks, I'm not just making this stuff up. 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