{"id":829,"date":"2026-07-21T14:55:21","date_gmt":"2026-07-21T21:55:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2026\/07\/21\/bigender-identity-journal-entry\/"},"modified":"2026-07-21T14:55:21","modified_gmt":"2026-07-21T21:55:21","slug":"bigender-identity-journal-entry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2026\/07\/21\/bigender-identity-journal-entry\/","title":{"rendered":"bigender identity journal entry"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>i passed 3 tween girls doing a coordinated dance for tiktok on a walk<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>recognition: that&#8217;s me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"350\" height=\"350\" data-attachment-id=\"828\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/img_1683\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/img_1683.jpg?fit=350%2C350&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"350,350\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"img_1683\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/img_1683.jpg?fit=350%2C350&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/img_1683.jpg?resize=350%2C350&#038;ssl=1\" class=\"wp-image-828\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/img_1683.jpg?w=350&amp;ssl=1 350w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/img_1683.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/img_1683.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 350px) 100vw, 350px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:24px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>memory: when i was a kid, i wanted to play jump rope and hand-clapping games with the girls, instead of kickball and four-square. the boys were always trying to win, and would spike the ball; girls were smiling at each other, clapping hands and hugging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>i tried a couple of times to fit into these girl groups, but it was awkward, and i just gave up. i went to a different school every year, but that aspect of social life was always the same, as was my inner sense of association.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>it was like not being allowed to be myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>i passed 3 tween girls doing a coordinated dance for tiktok on a walk recognition: that&#8217;s me. memory: when i was a kid, i wanted to play jump rope and hand-clapping games with the girls, instead of kickball and four-square. the boys were always trying to win, and would spike the ball; girls were smiling &#8230; <a title=\"bigender identity journal entry\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2026\/07\/21\/bigender-identity-journal-entry\/\" aria-label=\"Read more about bigender identity journal entry\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[29,124,31,14,26,15,9],"tags":[172,157,423,13,425,236,424,61,158,162,426,167],"class_list":["post-829","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chronicle","category-education","category-innerlog","category-neurodiversity","category-personal-narrative","category-politics","category-reflection","tag-belonging","tag-bigender","tag-childhood","tag-education","tag-exclusion","tag-gender-identity","tag-inclusion","tag-neurodiversity","tag-neuroqueer","tag-nonbinary","tag-play","tag-pride"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paor1p-dn","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":771,"url":"https:\/\/ryk.groetchen.com\/blog\/2026\/06\/09\/to-a-young-person-questioning-themselves\/","url_meta":{"origin":829,"position":0},"title":"to a young person questioning themselves","author":"Ryk Groetchen","date":"June 9, 2026","format":false,"excerpt":"I\u2019m 60Mf (that\u2019s how I\u2019ve been indicating a male-presenting femme-relating person). 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