Treat the difficult people among us gently.
Every day, they are processing our projections.
They are not trying to be difficult–they are just working with the operating system they were born with.
Making peace with the world involves a certain cognitive load, as the brain struggles to create new pathways to connect with and resolve reality.
It’s actually what keeps us young.
But in trying to avoid the feeling of the brain creating new pathways, we often offload this cognitive load onto the person we struggle to understand.
And the person we are struggling to understand often wants nothing more than to connect with us, and is trying their best, and will process the result of being told they’re difficult until it’s fully processed. This can take multiple lifetimes.
In offloading this processing, realize that we are moving ourselves away from the enlightenment we seek.
Enlightenment requires a certain cognitive load.
But if we need a break, advocate for ourselves and take a break. But don’t possibly break the self we’re struggling to understand by offloading our cognitive load to another part of ourself to process by telling ourself we’re difficult.
Don’t offload our cognitive load.
Give it a big ol’ hug.
may all beings recognize our true nature
every day is neurodiversity awareness day
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